Are you in a relationship with someone who has Mental Health Issues? Read On

Read on If you are in a relationship with a person who has mental health issues.

  1. Repeat this in your head hundred times a day: IT IS NOT GOING TO BE EASY. Be Patient. If you really love them you have to be patient with them. Nothing else will work.
  2. TRANSPARENCY & INVOLVEMENT: Keep things transparent with them. They cannot handle obscurity. One little doubt in their mind can inflate to a huge level. They can overthink and ruin everything. Think through the level of life sharing you can do when you know you like someone who has mental health issues. You’ll need to share your life in every bit,keep them on the same page,same line. All mental health diseases have one thing in common: Overthinking.If you think you aren’t prepared to curb their tendency of overthinking by sharing your life with them 100% then don’t get involved.
  3. ASSURE: M/H issues make one do &say things they don’t mean/want to. Try to understand the fight they are going through. Help them fight this war in their mind.Don’t fight against them.Fight with them.Tell them that you understand, assure them that you are there no matter what.
  4. LISTEN:You need to be a good listener. You might feel they are clingy. And they tend to be,because they are too emotionally dependent.They have a lot going on in their mind.Ask them, be a part of it all.Listen to them,even if you can’t find a solution,just listening will help
  5. AVOID:Calling them mad,blaming them,cheating on them,ghosting, blocking,abuse,arguments,fights. It will only make things worse.
    If you think you can love them despite their issues, express your feelings and concerns. If you think you can’t handle, be honest & leave decently.

दाग़

ग़म ये नहीं की उनके इश्क़ में हम फ़ना हो गए

ग़म ये है की हम मिट गए और वो दग़ा हो गए

ग़म ये नहीं की मुझ से अलविदा वो कह गए

ग़म ये है जाते जाते वो एक दफ़ा भी नहीं पलटे

ग़म ये नहीं की दूरियाँ कुछ ज़्यादा ही बढ़ गयी

ग़म ये है की नज़दीकियों को मौक़ा नहीं मिला

ग़म ये नहीं की ख़ामोशी कानो में चीख़ती रही

ग़म ये है की लफ़्ज़ों का सन्नाटा सहा न गया

ग़म ये नहीं की मोहब्बत का रंग उतर चुका था

ग़म ये है की इस दर्द का इक दाग़ भी ना पड़ा

Armageddon

On an early winter morning

I sat up in my bed, half woken

Like a spring being pulled

By a force unknown

half drenched half frozen.

A war witnessed

Fire rained from the heaven

The landscape probably turned

Deep orange, black in places

Sky seemed a shade of dead grey

Powerful Smoke blinded

I could hear you at a distance

as if calling my name. Not sure though.

I trusted my ears, my legs followed.

I ran till I couldn’t feel them anymore

But my eyes found their lost hope

Lying wounded on the ground

The white shirt turned red in patches

Further soaked by my tears

Wailing, I put your head to my bosom

Total blackout. Armageddon.

I dragged you amidst the darkness

Till both of us vanished

As if sucked into a blackhole.

Safe from this dangerous world,

That knows only the end.

I have tasted deceit

I have tasted deceit

On the tip of my tongue

When you kissed me.

I have felt my insides churning

At the mere thought

Of confrontation.

I have seen indifference

Slowly seeping

Into each of your pores.

I have seen your eyes

Looking away

Despite being with me.

I have known loneliness

While being wrapped in your arms

listening to your heartbeat.

I have taken cruelty

At the most sensitive hours

Garbed as mood swings.

I have experienced all this

And more

And yet I cannot let go.

Who made love

Such a terrible thing

Do you know?

हाँ मैं हूँ- बाज़ारू

हाँ मैं हूँ

बाज़ारू

पता है पहली बार कब बनी

जब अकेले घर से निकली थी

कॉलेज के लिए।पढ़ना ही तो चाहती थी

ये कहाँ सोचा था कि

सड़क पर कोई मेरा पट्ट भींचेगा

पलट के इतनी ज़ोर से उसे मारा

नाख़ून टूट गया था मेरा

‘हरामज़ादी, कुतिया!’ बोल वो तो भाग गया

पर आस पास सब मुझे घूरते रहे।

हाँ मैं हूँ

बाज़ारू

एक बहुत बड़ा पाप किया मैंने

अपने पैरों पर खड़ा होने का

नौकरी देने वाले ने सोचा

ये अच्छा माल हाथ लग गया

जो ख़ुद को छूने न दिया

तो कामचोर, बदचलन का ठप्पा लगा दिया

काम से निकाल ख़ुद को खुदा समझा

हर चीज़ की क़ीमत है, ख़्वाहिशों की भी

पर क्या इतना सस्ता है आत्मसम्मान?

हाँ मैं हूँ

बाज़ारू

मोहब्बत हुयी और ऐसे जैसे इबादत हो

दुनिया जहाँ छोड़ दिया

दोस्त, रिश्तेदार, यहाँ तक कि घर

सबसे नाता तोड़ लिया

सब कुछ लुटाया, कुछ भी ना रखा

जिसके लिए सबको भुला दिया

वही एक दिन बोला-

रांड, जो अपने घर की न हुयी

वो मेरी क्या सगी होगी?

हाँ मैं हूँ

बाज़ारू

बाज़ार के बीचों बीच हूँ

सब पर नज़रें गड़ाए बैठी हूँ

कौन क्या है कैसा है

देख,परख चुकी हूँ

मैं तो हूँ ही बाज़ारू

पर इस बाज़ार में तुम्हें

तुम्हारी औक़ात भी दिखा दूँ

तुम बोली तो लगा सकते हो

पर ख़रीद नहीं सकते।

I wish to be the colour blue

I wish to be the colour blue

On your cheerful palette

The one you use to paint

Your magical infinite skies

Where a pair of dove disappears

High on the madness of love.

Mix me gently with shades

Of Orange and creamy White

Create the ocean that froths

being kissed by the setting sun.

Make me the hue of your soul

The indistinguishable darkness

Of a night bereft of stars and moon.

I wish to be that one colour

The shade of blue, that is you.

पानी सी

मोहब्बत, क्यूँ है तू पानी सी

प्यासों को मिलती नहीं

जो मिलती भी तो खारी सी

होंठों तक तू आयी नहीं

उँगलियों के बीच से सरक गयी

मोहब्बत, क्यूँ है तू पानी सी

देख लिया

ख़्वाबों के चमकते जर्रों को

धूल में मिलते देख लिया

न उस पार लगे न इस पार रहे

भँवर में डूब के देख लिया

छोटी छोटी ख़ुशियों का

सौदा कर के देख लिया

हर हाल में यूँ मरते मरते भी

हमने जी कर देख लिया

इश्क़ की माँग पर इबादत दी

बुतपरस्त बन के देख लिया

उसकी वहशत का हर इल्ज़ाम

अपने सिर लेके देख लिया

क्या खोया क्या पाया

हिसाब भी रख के देख लिया

दर्द से दर्द की जद्दोजहद में

आज ख़ुद को शिकस्त देख लिया

You deserve more

Hey you! Yes you.

The one gazing into the mirror

Posing questions with brimming eyes.

Seeking answers.

Forget everything else.

Just remember: It was not your fault.

Nothing else is important.

Forgive yourself.

Forgive yourself for loving someone more than your own self.

Forgive yourself for keeping your dreams second to theirs.

Forgive yourself for shutting your eyes to endless lies.

Forgive yourself for staying with them despite knowing they don’t deserve you.

You are more than what they can ever acknowledge.

You are more than what they can ever see.

You are more than what they think you deserve.

You want to know what you deserve?

Let me tell you what you deserve.

You deserve someone who holds your bleeding heart in his palms and doesn’t let a drop fall to the ground.

You deserve someone who can make you smile even through the toughest times.

You deserve someone who puts a balm on your ever suffering soul.

You deserve someone who feels your pain and does everything to diminish it.

You deserve someone who can nourish your mind and nurture your spirit.

You deserve someone who can love you as love should be.

Don’t settle for anything less.

For You are more than all of it combined.

You deserve more.

-Ruchi Kokcha

There’s a Love…

There’s a love, the rare kind of love

That you are gifted with, without asking.

The love that starts missing you

The second after you’ve parted.

The love that goes the extra mile

To make your lips curve into a smile.

The love that cracks funny jokes

And makes you laugh till you cry

The love that buys colourful anklets

To adorn your feet with tender touch.

The love that makes the heart warm 

And the body shiver with passion

The love that gently cups the face

And kisses the forehead while parting

The love that is benevolent and yet

So overbearing, it makes the mind freeze

The love that fills the empty spaces
Between your fingers and your life.

The love that looks at you as if

You carry an entire universe within.